inspired by my response to Sarah Doughty’s “between the lines.”
here are some facts about the selfless mind: first, the selfless things they do for people are never appreciated while they are still around. second, and this derives from the first, the things people learn from selfless people seem harsh when they are said or done, and they are disliked or thought insensitive until much later when the veracity of what they said or did starts to unravel (to help the one who received it). third, and this derives from the second, people considered insensitive when you are together, usually leave you with a life-long lesson for how to approach life. fourth, selfless people are missed long after they are gone, but know this, the fact that the good lessons they teach are appreciated long after they are gone – is what keeps them doing what at first seems inconsiderate, insensitive and harsh. know this, the selfless mind bleeds, but their bleeding hearts will always flow to give life to those around them – but they bleed. know this, be wary of the disadvantages of not seeing the positive in people when you are with them. know this, be wary of being blinded by rainbows, learn to read between the lines, learn that the details are usually in the fabric not how the wearer appears to the beholder, learn to separate a lesson to be learned from the (sometimes obnoxious) personality of the person that ‘teaches’ it.
November 3, 2016 at 07:47
Rough exteriors may contain a soft concern….. seems to be the essence of this light note.
How much to appreciate and how can you appreciate someone who does even a nice thing wrongly ? No one cares how much you know till they know how much you care……it is important for the so called selfless mind to be kind. And to be slightly vulnerable to the other mind whose receptivity is desired. And to express it , instead of a shrug ” I said what must be told , rest is up to you humph !” Now , this will never be appreciated. The lesson will be remembered by an intelligent student , who will not deny wisdom but such a student will sadly never forget the insensitivity…either ! And if there are two self less minds , they may miss each other anyways…..;-)
This is a light reply 🙂
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November 3, 2016 at 07:57
thanks for your response, but i am afraid you have done just what the piece warns against – the details are in the fabric. please take particular notice of the use of ‘seem,’ ‘considered,’ and ‘seems.’ it’s the receiver that considers what is said harsh, insensitive and not the selfless mind’s act that is so. this is a lighthearted response not a reprimand. smiling!
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November 3, 2016 at 09:52
There is no reality except what is perceived. 😉
Timely clarifications are needed by strangers before they become friends.
Selfless minds do not know what the selfish mind wants …how can you decide what is right or wrong for another and believe you did it because you knew better ??
” Seems ” presumptuous.
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November 3, 2016 at 10:07
well said.
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November 3, 2016 at 16:32
i agree with you that the act of a selfless person maybe presumptuous. however, i have a different take on this. for instance, did you write these comments because you thought you were superior. i bet not. but have i learnt anything from them. i bet i have. so, the acts, words or opinions of a selfless person are not always done or said from a position of superiority – but most times to share knowledge or offer a different perspective. i defer to you here in assuming that if said or done from a position of superiority that would approximate manipulation. that would replicate the examples you give here.
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November 3, 2016 at 11:00
I’m always in awe of your insights. You always see right between the lines and can interpret intended (and sometimes coincidental) meanings. This is what makes you a great readers and writer. 😊
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November 3, 2016 at 11:11
thanks for the kind words. a piece of work has to contain these things for them to be found, so credit to you for always writing great stuff.
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November 3, 2016 at 19:50
Awww thank you. 😊
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November 3, 2016 at 19:58
anytime!
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